Mar Lamar’s “Someone to Blame” Is A Playful Breakup Letter To Guilt And People-Pleasing

After years of leading the indie project Highland Kites, Mar Lamar is stepping into a bold new spotlight with her debut solo single “Someone to Blame.” It’s a vibrant, tongue-in-cheek anthem that signals not only a shift in sound but also a shift in perspective. In its place is a shimmering blend of indie pop, alt-rock energy, and lyrical honesty that makes you smirk just as much as it makes you reflect. This is Mar Lamar at her most self-aware and creatively free.

The track kicks off with a breezy intro and builds into a dreamy swirl of piano, synths, guitar, drums, and bass. But the production never overshadows the songwriting. Mar’s voice sits front and centre, warm and clear, inviting you into her world and emotional release. She sings about being a chronic helper, about guilt that lingers long after relationships end, and about finally choosing to let it all go. The chorus, with its sarcastic bite – “Aren’t you glad I gifted someone to blame?” – feels like a wink to anyone who’s ever been stuck carrying the emotional baggage in a one-sided relationship.

What makes this song really shine is the story behind it. After taking a break from music to embrace motherhood, Mar Lamar found herself filled with ideas and ready to create again. She started making three-hour round-trip drives to Freda Recording in Nashville, fitting sessions in between caring for two young daughters and all the chaos that comes with parenting. That kind of commitment adds an extra layer of depth to the track. “Someone to Blame” isn’t just a catchy indie tune. It’s a small act of rebellion against burnout. It’s a reminder that growth often comes from choosing yourself, even when life is hectic and demanding.

Mar Lamar could have played it safe on her solo debut, but instead she gives us something refreshingly real. The song balances wit and vulnerability in a way that feels personal yet instantly relatable. Whether you’re a recovering people-pleaser or just someone trying to make peace with your past, “Someone to Blame” will strike a chord. And if this is the first taste of what’s to come from her solo work, there’s a lot to look forward to.